HEAL PRESENCE OF THE PAST

Families repeat unresolved trauma in future generations.

We are influenced by those who came before us and influencing those who come after. Everything in the universe is interconnected so are we. We inherit cultures and experiences. This is known as collective unconscious or memory in nature.

It organizes itself in systems such as flock of birds, religions, countries, football teams and so on, but the most important system for human beings is the family. Family systems are responsible for how we live and how we thrive through natural laws called 'The Orders of Love".

The orders of love rarely exist intact within the average family. They dictate who belongs and what will happen to the family when a member has been excluded by them in an attempt to achieve collective harmony.

Exclusions are separations and create trauma, disruption and unbalance. They are known as entanglements and are cause of pain and suffering. Re-establishing these orders will bring peace an freedom to the individual and to the group.

'The idea of the memory being the brain is an assumption. Everything that happens in our culture we inherit,' Rupert Sheldrake.

Whilst life is the greatest gift given to us by our parents, trauma is the greatest obstacle. It plays like a broken record, in cycles and shows itself through symptoms well known to all: drug addiction, lack of motivation, new partner with the same behavior as the old one, always working but broke most of the time...

- What if a man’s drug addiction were really a search for connection with his father?

- Suppose a suicidal adolescent was unconsciously trying to follow the fate of an older brother who wasn't born because the mother had a miscarriage?

- What if a woman’s breast cancer were rooted in the unconscious feeling of guilt for having had an abortion?

- Why do marriages where a spouse who cheated then was forgiven ends?

This book brings, in simple language, the theory and 25 case studies.