Many of my listeners come to me with many questions about their interactions with narcissists. They want to know how to outsmart the narcissists who are making them feel as though they are going crazy. Some of them want to learn how to interact better with their narcissists. Many readers are truly baffled by their partners. They aren't sure whether to love them or leave them.

People have many reasons for not wanting to leave relationships with narcissists. They may have children with the narcissists, and they may fear losing the custody battles to their narcissistic partners. Some of them don't have the financial means to leave the narcissists. They depend fully upon the narcissist's financial contribution to the family. Still others are afraid that they won't find love again after leaving narcissistic relationships.

Many of these reasons are valid reasons to stay in a relationship with a narcissist. Relationships can be tricky and overwhelming. They can leave us in a heap, unsure of who we are anymore. Many of the people who reach out to me for help are scared, alone, and isolated by their narcissistic partners. They may be trauma bonded to their narcissistic partners, which is something that I cover in depth.

A trauma-bonded partner is often similar to a rat in a cage who has been exposed to shock experiments. Once the rat is no longer shocked, it freezes in fear. It feels helpless and hopeless, so it doesn't bother even trying anymore.

I am hoping that you have come to find this book in better spirits than my trauma-bonded listeners. You are hoping to restore some form of your life and your personality that existed before the narcissist was in your life. Your narcissist may also be a drug to you. You can't seem to get enough of something that seems to be sometimes unhealthy in your life. He makes you feel good sometimes but makes you feel dreadful at other times.