“Who am I?”

For Juli Behrends, she wrestled with this question for decades, echoing through heartbreak, hidden pain, and choices made in search of something more that only deepened the void inside.

As an identical twin, she struggled early on to feel valued, recognized and known. Striving to understand her purpose in life. She became a performer—Dad’s helper, the athlete, the achiever—chasing approval like oxygen. But even success couldn’t fill the ache within.

Marriage didn’t heal it. Neither did divorce. And in her search for belonging, Juli found connection in the gay community—yet even then, something still felt missing. Loneliness, rejection, and a fragile identity followed her everywhere.

Until she made the one decision that changed everything: surrendering her identity to the One who created her, revealing her true identity in Jesus Christ.

In Transforming Choices, Juli shares her raw, redemptive story of healing from shame, hopelessness, rediscovering faith, and uncovering the identity she was meant for. With honesty and humility, she invites listeners into a journey of grace that meets you right where you are (messiness and all) and leads you home.

If you’re wrestling with who you are, carrying wounds no one sees, or wondering if anything can fill the emptiness within—this book will meet you there and reveal the truth.

You are not alone. And your story isn’t over-there is hope.