Counselor's Choice Award winner, 2025

Dramatically improve your self-esteem by changing unhelpful thinking patterns. Rethink Yourself offers a fresh perspective on building self-esteem by speaking to the mind, not the heart.

The cause of low self esteem isn’t personal deficiencies, even if it feels that way—low self-esteem is a direct result of unfair and unkind self-talk. To improve your self-esteem, you don’t need to change yourself; you just need to change the way you think about yourself. And no, that doesn't involve lying to yourself; it means ensuring your beliefs about yourself are fair and accurate, rather than warped by harsh self-criticism.

Authoritative and insightful, Rethink Yourself is an innovative step-by-step guide using methods rooted in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). Featuring interactive activities, Rethink Yourself is essential listening for anyone struggling with relentless self-criticism.

This book will help you:

• change your negative self-talk by making it work for you, not against you
• give yourself the credit you deserve without being arrogant
• know and honor your innate worth
• uncover positive traits you didn’t even realize you had
• take your mistakes in stride
• evaluate your personal qualities fairly and accurately
• communicate with confidence
• . . . and so much more!

Building your self-esteem isn’t about feeling inspired to somehow uncover your hidden confidence, and it’s certainly more nuanced than just looking in the mirror and telling yourself you’re awesome. It’s about changing those deeply held beliefs about yourself that keep you from accepting yourself as you are.