Have you ever been scrolling through social media, whether it’s Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or TikTok, and you run into a random but amazing motivational video of a woman who completely transformed her body from fat to fit after going through a breakup?

Those videos are amazing and definitely motivational, but what happens when you go check the comments? A lot of the time you’ll see insensitive comments such as, “if you had done this while y'all were together, he wouldn't have broken up with you” or “why couldn’t you do this while y'all were still together?”

And the same goes for when it's a guy who completely transformed his physique after his ex cheated on him. There will be comments that say, “if you were this shredded when you were with her, she wouldn’t have cheated on you” or, “she wouldn't have cheated on you if you hadn’t been so skinny/fat”.

Although those comments are definitely uncalled for and insensitive, if you actually think about it, there is some truth to it. And before you get all defensive, if you’re currently going through a breakup or have gone through something similar, please actually think about it for a quick second. Why couldn’t they actually do it while they were in the relationship? Or why were they all of the sudden able to do it after the breakup? And most importantly, what would have happened if they had actually done it while they were in the relationship?

And one more question, what stopped them from doing it? And how can you or do it before this happens to you?

This guide will teach you how to communicate with your partner to get them on the same page as you when it comes to building a healthy fitness lifestyle—a lifestyle that both you and your partner can be happy to be part of without either one of you feeling like you’re the problem or feel like you’re getting judged for being out of shape.